ARE YOU LEADING EVERYONE ELSE… BUT QUIETLY LOSING YOURSELF?
Sometimes we lose ourselves suddenly- through heartbreak or life’s unexpected upheavals. Other times it happens quietly- through over giving and the slow slide into depletion.
Somewhere along the way…you’ve started to lose yourself.
It doesn’t have to be this way
This is the story I’ve lived. I came to see that this was the choice in front of me.
Lead myself. Or lose myself.
The map I’ve created is to help you lead yourself and others, despite life’s setbacks, without losing yourself in the process.
ARE YOU LEADING EVERYONE ELSE…
and quietly losing yourself?
Sometimes we lose ourselves suddenly through life's unexpected upheavals.
Other times it happens quietly through over giving and a slow slide into depletion.
It doesn't have to be this way.
This is the story I've lived. I came to see that this was the choice in front of me.
Lead myself. Or lose myself.
The map I've created is to help you lead yourself and others, despite life's setbacks, without losing yourself in the process.
With a foreword by Dr John Demartini- International Bestselling Author and Human Behaviour Specialist
ARE YOU LEADING EVERYONE ELSE…
and quietly losing yourself?
Sometimes we lose ourselves suddenly through life's unexpected upheavals.
Other times it happens quietly through over giving and a slow slide into depletion.
It doesn't have to be this way.
This is the story I've lived. I came to see that this was the choice in front of me.
Lead myself. Or lose myself.
The map I've created is to help you lead yourself and others, despite life's setbacks, without losing yourself in the process.
The guide to Rise UP with resilience through life’s setbacks and start leading yourself and others with calm confidence.
SELF-ish LEADERSHIP
How to Lead Without Losing Yourself
This is not a book about doing more.
It’s about learning how to stop losing yourself in the process of leading others.
Who This Book Is For
Perhaps you are carrying a heavy load.
Perhaps you are leading others while quietly feeling depleted yourself.
Perhaps something in your life has shifted and you find yourself standing at a crossroads, wondering what comes next. Knowing you need to make a change.
You've been leading others while slowly losing yourself
You’ve been holding everything together- and it’s starting to cost you
You know something needs to change, but not sure where to start
In the midst of life's upheaval, we either learn to lead ourselves… or we slowly lose ourselves.
And then one quiet thought begins to rise beneath the exhaustion.
A thought that can feel both uncomfortable… and strangely freeing.
What if you give yourself permission, just for once, to be selfish?
Selfish in the courageous sense — the kind that recognises you cannot keep leading on empty.
Not because you care less about others, but because you finally give yourself permission to choose yourself as well.
This is your permission slip.
Your invitation to lead yourself differently
Pre-order your copy of
Selfish Leadership: How to Lead Without Losing Yourself
The Rise UP Guide
👉 Be one of the first to receive the book
👉 Start your journey back to yourself
👉 Lead with clarity, energy, and an open heart
✨ Pre-order Bonus
Order your copy and receive:
✨ A Ticket to a Live Virtual Retreat
✨ RISE Daily Planner
✨ Guided Reflection Workbook
About Niky
There is a version of leadership no one prepares you for. The kind that happens when life doesn't go to plan.
When you're navigating grief…
uncertainty…
burnout…
while still being expected to lead.
I know this place.
After the loss of my son, I found myself leading a growing business and team… while feeling like an empty shell of who I once was.
On the outside, I was holding it together.
On the inside, I was barely staying afloat.
I was exhausted.
Overwhelmed.
Questioning everything.
And yet… still showing up.
It was in that season I realised something had to change.
Because there are only two paths:
You either learn to lead yourself…
or you slowly lose yourself.
"For those leading through change, uncertainty, or personal challenge, this book offers both insight and practical tools to support growth."
Dr John Demartini
International Bestselling Author of The Values Factor
The change we need
What emerged through my own story was something unexpected.
Not pushing harder.
Not "bouncing back."
But something deeper.
A different kind of resilient leadership. Selfish leadership.
Not selfish in the way we've been taught to avoid.
But selfish in the way that says:
👉 I matter too
👉 My energy matters
👉 My wellbeing matters
Because when you lead from depletion… everything suffers.
But when you lead from fullness… everything changes.
✨ What You Will Learn
Inside this book, you will learn how to:
Stop leading from exhaustion and rebuild your internal capacity
Regulate your emotions so you can respond instead of react
Quiet self-doubt and rebuild trust in yourself
Set boundaries without guilt or apology
Get clear on your direction so you stop feeling pulled in every direction
Lead your life, your work, and your relationships without losing who you are
This is not theory.
It is practical. Grounded. Lived.
🧭 The Framework
This book is built around the RISE UP Framework:
R
Recognise
See where you’ve been losing yourself
I
Inner Fuel
Restore your energy—body, mind, and heart
S
Set Your GPS
Get clear on your direction and what truly matters
E
Empower
Lead with confidence, boundaries, and authenticity
Final Invitation
You don’t need to wait until everything falls apart.
You don’t need to keep proving your worth through exhaustion.
You don’t need to lose yourself to lead.
There is another way.
A calmer way.
A clearer way.
A more sustainable way.
A way where you rise and lead with both heart and resilience …
without leaving yourself behind.
Pre-order your copy of
Selfish Leadership: How to Lead Without Losing Yourself
The Rise UP Guide
👉 Be one of the first to receive the book
👉 Start your journey back to yourself
👉 Lead with clarity, energy, and an open heart
✨ Pre-order Bonus
Order your copy and receive:
✨ A Ticket to a Live Virtual Retreat
✨ RISE Daily Planner
✨ Guided Reflection Workbook
Because resilience isn't about bouncing back.
It's the courageous choice to rise up and transform.
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