I’m Niky and my mission is to help women step into selfish leadership, so they can lead 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒍𝒐𝒔𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒎𝒔𝒆𝒍𝒗𝒆𝒔.  

To lead through life and business- without the self-sacrifice. To build calm heart-centred confidence, so you can lead yourself and others, and build teams that thrive.

For years, I believed leadership and business growth lived in the mind— technical ability, logic, knowing more, hard work, over-giving, planning, decisions, exhaustion and KPIs. 

And yes- I studied everything under the sun to build my physiotherapy business and gave it my all. 

And here’s the harsh reality. 

My business didn’t take off. I struggled managing team members. I became bogged down in performance analysis. I felt overloaded. I wondered how it was possible to lead or run a business, without the self sacrifice?

And life has a way of breaking us open. And that breaking was what transformed how I lead. 

The shift that changed everything for me didn’t come from a new qualification, training, a clever system or a productivity hack.

It came from grief.

Raw, unfiltered, life-stopping grief. 

And it opened my heart in a way that no leadership textbook ever could.

When our son died, my world collapsed in an instant. One moment I was running on the treadmill of  ambition in business management, hosting events and presenting. 

The next I was falling to the bottom of the ocean, barely breathing, looking up at a surface I wasn’t sure I’d ever reach again.

My brain fog was relentless. Decision-making felt like wading through mud. I questioned everything—my choices, my path, my identity.

And for a while, I stayed small. Quiet. Unsure. Blaming myself.

But grief does something extraordinary when we allow  it move through us: it softens the armour we never realised we were wearing.

It cracked me open. And in that opening, with the courage to face and hold the depth and discomfort of it all, something shifted.

I became more real. More present. More connected—first to myself, then to the people I served.

And that authenticity changed my entire leadership and business.

𝐇𝐞𝐫𝐞’𝐬 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐈’𝐯𝐞 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧𝐭:

I’d spent my entire life looking after others.

I now needed to prioritise my health, my emotional regulation and energy, 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒂𝒑𝒐𝒍𝒐𝒈𝒚 𝒐𝒓 𝒆𝒙𝒑𝒍𝒂𝒏𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏.

Only from this place can we lead from calm. 

Grief stripped away everything that no longer mattered and left me with the courage to make decisions that aligned.

To choose what was important to me, 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒔𝒆𝒆𝒌𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒂𝒑𝒑𝒓𝒐𝒗𝒂𝒍.

Only from this place can we lead with clear direction.

The cycling habit of blame, self criticism or regret is no way to lead yourself or others.

Replacing this with self compassion is the highest form of self love. 

𝐀𝐥𝐥 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐬𝐞 𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐩𝐬 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐫𝐭 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐜𝐡𝐨𝐨𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟.

Whether you’re navigating team overwhelm, background personal life stressors, relationship hurdles. Whether you’re self sacrificing in the name of building your business or your team. Whether you're leading through challenges, moments of messiness and trying not to lose yourself. This is both courageous 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒆𝒙𝒉𝒂𝒖𝒔𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒈.

What if 𝒔𝒆𝒍𝒇𝒊𝒔𝒉 𝒍𝒆𝒂𝒅𝒆𝒓𝒔𝒉𝒊𝒑 is the answer?

My story into selfish leadership came from necessity. And completely rebuilt my life. 

When I stepped into selfish leadership, everything began to flow.

My team trusted me more deeply.

Communication strengthened.

My team grew.

My business quadrupled.

Not because I bounced back—I didn’t.

But because I rose differently. 

My health improved, my relationship improved and my energy skyrocketed. 

I started presenting my retreats and workshops from a different space.

With purpose. With enthusiasm. With energy. With connection.

Authentically. With a clear mind and open heart.

Today, I see leadership as two train tracks running side by side.

One track is the mind—strategy, systems, structure, choosing clarity in direction.

The other is the heart—empathy, attunement, courage, connection, choosing your energy.

Without the mind in leadership, you can’t steer a team.

Without the heart, they won’t follow you.

You need both. Mind-Hearted leadership.

And it all starts with self. 

Selfish leadership.

Yes I have learnt the skills- I am an NLP master coach, a Demartini Facilitator, a Physiotherapist, a Certified Speaker, Heart Math and have completed Brene’ Browns Dare to Lead Program. But the knowledge without the authentic heart is simply information. 

And unless you selfishly choose to open your heart, clear your mind and lead from within, you stay stuck in a cycle of overwhelm. 

Over the past ten years, I’ve helped countless women lead themselves and start leading others with the exact selfish leadership steps I have created. 

If you’re ready to rise and lead from a place of calm heart centred confidence, you’re in the right place.

Because true leadership starts from within.

𝐀𝐧𝐝 𝐢𝐭 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐬 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟𝐢𝐬𝐡 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩.The mind-hearted way. 

Empowering selfish leadership to build teams that thrive.